As a love adviser, I wonder about like and love quite often. They’re basically a part of my fundamentals that just can’t be missed out. I often hear people say they are exactly the same thing, but just different terms. To me, synonyms carry the same concept but are slightly different in its own distinctive definition.
I believe like and love are the two different situations. Like is more of like a feeling, a brief feeling that we have for a person just by their physical appearance, public characteristics, and how their overall appeals to you. Whereas, love is more of like having a serious crush. You interact with them, you play with them long enough that you understand what their personality is, inside and out.
When the right timing comes, you start to develop feelings and you think about a long-term relationship that you could have with them. So yes, affection and attachment do contribute a part to bordering the line between the two. Crushes aren’t necessarily have to be deep feelings, majority is “like” crushes and they’re simply composed of a passing infatuation for someone. We find ourselves very passionate in the burning desires to be with someone. Photo mulan 2011 © (CC BY-SA 2.0)
I asked other people what they think about it, and they said that like can eventually lead to what we all know, love. Without the basic background of all your interests for that person, you definitely cannot build up love. It’s like playing with Lego, pretend you’re assembling a car but rather than starting at step one, you skip straight ahead to step 4, then you’ll be missing a permanent part of your final product unless you undo it and build it all over again. Just like love, you can’t fully have their heart unless you build a strong foundation.
Usually, it’s the distance, similarities, and attractiveness that bring people together and enclose their feelings. Living nearby, having similar tastes, preferences, interests, and fashion styles, those are necessities for a much stronger and deeper attachment to be built but not yet to enter the phase of being in a relationship. However, in rare cases do the abnormal, odd, extraordinary yet unique traits and differences charm the other person. Traditionally, people tend to stick with the common ones, but some find those weird personalities very interesting.
So we put our thoughts together and we believe that most of the times, you can construct a strong standing ground of love based off of your basics but it also depends on the interactions. In other words, endearment can occur at anytime as long as you have a strong supporter and background to back you up. For example, a friend likes another friend in school. You go to school and meet that person everyday, you interact with them in person even if no words are spoken. The more time you see that friend, the more emotions that will be intrigued. On the opposite hand, let’s say fans and celebrities, fans don’t get to see their idols every time they go out. Some possible ways to see them are to attend their events or just happen to see them on the streets.
Comparing the interaction you have with the first example, it’s much lesser so therefore less endearment is kept and held. However, there are certain fans that exceed the limits and overdo their actions that can be very creepy and annoying. Those think their idols are the sources of life for them, without the presences of the celebrities, death is very likely to be faced or it might be external conflict with the world. Another key factor that matters as well is the gap between, awkwardness. Even if hobbies, interests, and personalities match, the conversations determine whether the two are compatible or not. Too much silence and awkwardness can’t conclude anything no matter how much you claim the love for that person.
After all the analysis and discussions, we came up with a final decision. There are likes that can only go up to a certain level and stop progressing before love. There are also likes that’ll grow to extend beyond infinity. Recap, love for a pop star can be passionate, aggressive, sometimes crazy but that burning desire is not as long and deep for our friend. A great demonstration is this, no fans have ever ended up being in a relationship because the affection a celebrity has for their friends is just the casual and friendly but there are some exceptions, however that is very rarely to happen. Despite that fan – idol’s love, there’s a higher chance that you’ll experience the real highness of love. Fans and celebrities are like partners in business, while friends with friends are more of like a family displaying one as a mother and another as the father.
Nevertheless, there’s an ugly truth regarding high school relationships. I know we’re not talking about relationship today but since it’s relating to the topics, I might as well share this with you guys. This is what I’ve read in articles and saw other people’s affair: depends on each individual’s destiny, there is a rather high possibility that your high school sweetheart might not follow you through the rest of your life. And I think it’s very true, here’s why. At a certain point of your life, you’ll be opened to new exposures, like meet more people, make new friends in new environments. Your capability of meeting new people and making new friends is not limited as soon as you step out of your comfort zone that you have been stuck in for quite a while. Just like when you move from middle school to high school, the perspectives will change, the girl that you promise to love forever is now a girlfriend of another guy. Childhood love is very innocent and delicate, only those that choose to cherish the happy moments forever can get through life’s obstacles and scandalous meetups.