Mass Amount of Loves in High School???

I’ve just thought about this a few days ago and it seems pretty true so I want to share with you guys to see if you have the same view with high school kids nowadays as. The relationship theory that I just came up with is that majority of the kids over the course of 12 years of school, love and infatuate on an average amount of 3-12 people. While the rest either goes single all the way or have lesser rate of loves.

The point I’m trying to make here is that not because some kids aren’t attractive enough that they are unable to have crushes as much as the others, but this how puberty grows hormone and it usually clusters around middle school to high school. Boys and girls, when they hit puberty at a certain age, they all want to be loved and this is the start of their affection desires built by the hormones inside. Some can be either really good at suppressing their feelings or they have no interests at all, but like I mentioned before, majority of the students like to go for short-terms and pass it up real quick.

From those days in junior high to the 4 years of high school, teens tend to be repetitive in finding loves and infatuations out of boredom and loneliness. Because of the total 6 years of school, they meet lots of new people and changes of mind regarding their choice can change from time to time. But the thing ironic about this is, kids are supposed to have real fun when they’re still young. Supposedly during their teenage and early twenties, these kids should be exploring the world and learn who they really are first before rushing themselves into relationships and crushes.

So to conclude today’s post, I want to know how you feel about this so please comment down below and let me know your thoughts. I know today’s blog is kinda short but thank you so much and I’ll see you next week!

Silence….

Silence.

It kills relationships.

It is also the most powerful weapon.

For those who treasure and value their significant others than anything else, nothing is more painful than a silence act given by them. Words hurt feelings, but the deafening quiet breaks the heart.

Sometimes, it is rightful to be silent in the downhills. Say all your wills, confirm your feelings, your thoughts. What you want, tell them, what you need, tell them, everything you feel about the relationship, tell them. If you don’t, nobody gonna knows what you want. And after all, silence can do nothing, it doesn’t solve the problems nor does it fix the shattered souls.

Love is not all about the expensive dates and luxurious gifts. True love doesn’t ask for much but the attention and care given at the appropriate times. Nothing too pricey nor dreamy, ordinary like any others. Lovers put efforts into their relationship, do everything they possibly can to maintain a healthy love yet some people are ungrateful about it and choose not to do the same thing back.

You try to play it cool, but you don’t know how catching feelings of another person can be like until you’re in their shoes. Having no idea what is up with you. Worried, concerned, having no idea what is up with you. No matter how much they try to fix it, all you can do is stay quiet and leave them hanging. They wander in thoughts of you.

The unavoidable blankless. Silence is sound, but it lacks an element of life, the loudest sound you’ll ever hear in your life. Moving on, but dying out of oxygen. Night comes but only them survive in the coldness of the world. Holds it in, the agony of having to suppress your sadness is indescribable. You don’t know and you’ll never understand, the broken heart of a human who got left out.

You think it’s alright to leave the love in silence for a while. They struggle to understand your perspective, until one day, they finally accept the fate. But not being an idiot, staying back beside someone who doesn’t appreciate their existence.

They leave your life.

And then you start realizing how important they are. All the mixed feelings rush by, you are like a wild animal breaking out the cage, doing everything you can just to ask for forgiveness. Nonetheless, it’s too late to say sorry.

 

Treasure your loved ones before karma comes and leaves you with regrets.

 

Forever is a Distance [#11]

She was a teen, he was a young adult. There were times when she really missed him and just wanted to express her feelings, but looking back at the relationship with him, it was nothing. They were no longer together, she had no right to be jealous with whoever he hung out with, she had no right to say “I love you” nor “I miss you” anymore. Although they didn’t break up for the old, same reason but it was that they couldn’t be together. They were perfect for each other, their love was dreamy, they ended up parting ways for their age gap, however.

 17453740_623846054481204_330451042_oHe loved her and she loved him, but they remained as friends because they both had a fear of losing each other. Accidentally, they built up this wall of fears and insecurities. She knew for the best they wouldn’t last yet they both tried to tie it down any way possible. On those last days of their love, he took her to the beach, the worries, the dark thoughts, all got washed up by the shores.

Ever since that day, they were fond of each other, not a couple, but as brother and sister. His life, her life, no one knew much about it. They laid under the same stars but their heart ached for the cold, bitterness of the universe. She chose to pursue him in her dreams, it was a tough decision, for it to let him be her 3AM thoughts. She blindly devoted to her long-term, one-sided love despite how dreadful that was. She cried herself to sleep every night, she was pathetic, living her life as a chaotic, apologetic mess. 

She couldn’t rebound to another love, her heart ached inside of her and she was sitting there cluelessly, didn’t know what to do with her life. She told him she didn’t want to be a sister anymore but truly a friend. Her words cut her heart, the wounds, dripping blood endlessly. Her own writing locked her up. She was ruining both hearts. She was afraid to face the destruction of reality.

She missed all the convos that she had, all the kisses, the hugs, the cuddles, the locks, every single thing. She missed both the memories and the person. For her, he wasn’t an ex, he was more than the universe, a person who she truly deeply loved and cared for. Sometimes it hit her out of nowhere. All of a sudden, this overwhelming sadness rushed it over her and she got discouraged, upset and hopeless, sad and hurt. Once again, she became numb to the world. She just wanted to go somewhere where nobody knew who she was and she wished he was there with her. But little did she know, he chased her through heaven and hell since the first day. They didn’t regret meeting one another, but for the time period that split the souls.

Credits: Anonymous Writer

Personal Experience: I grew older and maturer through love! [#10]

Today, I am here to tell you my own love story which is shameful of me to be involved but I hope at the end of this post, you will learn something meaningful. All races and genders don’t deserve this type of love.

About a year and a half ago, this end of stupidity and endless nightmares matured me into a love expert. That was when I grew my passion of becoming so deeply obsessed with what I am here today. I grew older and learned my lesson through my first step outside the world. I am truly glad now that I know what is like and what is love. That those two should never mix together like a bowl of flour and not everything is ingredients. Realizing your own feelings before moving further is the greatest weapon of not to get hurt painfully wounded and be tricked by the foolery of any kind of relationship. Define clearly what is the relation of the two and don’t just dismiss of what you don’t like to be heard about.

So me and this guy, T.V., were just friends, nothing more serious. Long story short, we liked each other but never became a couple. Although we did friend zoned each other, both were protective of one another during the whole month after we officially announced a serious and intense friendship. During that whole month of talking frequently and lovely, he kinda got bored of me and piled excuses after excuses and ranted how busy he was to the point that he couldn’t talk much to me those days. And this pattern lasted a couple more months until Christmas of that year when I found out that he married a girl exactly a month earlier. Obviously, I was already used to his attitudes and it wasn’t much of a surprise for me, but still it was a brutally shocking news. From that day on, we never talked again.

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Real quick update about him, he is currently married and still works as a product manager at Tiki in Vietnam. Before when it was still pink, he was as charismatic as a celebrity. Black, short and very tailored-look hair combs backwards nicely under the glossy locks of gel. His golden smile generally brings out the smooth, clear complexion and high cheekbones of him. His full, flat, and blunted tails of brows add more luxurious sparks to his nice and broad smile. I was blindly head over heals in love with him.

The most heard saying that he ever said to me was excuses of his work. He blamed me for not being a patient and understanding companion like I said in the beginning. Honestly, no one is busy 24/7, one way or another, everyone sure has a free time everyday. It’s just them who choose to use excuses instead of admitting to their faults. When the game goes downhill or over, everything is simply a justification for lies.

There’s a saying, “Once a cheater always a cheater.” Although T.V. didn’t physically and seriously cheated on his girlfriend or who now is his wife, his infidelity will always remain deep down his heart and the rivers of blood flowing. What I wish I could find out now about that person is that his true colors would be exposed coincidentally by his wife. My wish does seem selfish but the truth needs to stay real. 

16930704_610919259107217_964937017_oNo one should ever deserved to be loved and treated this way. I didn’t feel offended nor hurt. I wasn’t overwhelmed by this but not all of us feel the same way. Love is blind and it can be foolish. But as long as you realize your own feelings right from the beginning, you won’t be deeply affected later if hope turns you down. For my story, I did predict the future somewhat similar to the outcome but after a while being surprised and shocked, I became strong-minded and fiercer like nothing ever happened. If you happen to be risky and playful, you gotta stay strong and stable until the end. What is not worth your time has already turn into the past for a reason. So if you know someone who is in the same situation as I was, spread the words.

 

Does like have a correlation with love? [#9]

As a love adviser, I wonder about like and love quite often. They’re basically a part of my fundamentals that just can’t be missed out. I often hear people say they are exactly the same thing, but just different terms. To me, synonyms carry the same concept but are slightly different in its own distinctive definition.

I believe like and love are the two different situations. Like is more of like a feeling, a brief feeling that we have for a person just by their physical appearance, public characteristics, and how their overall appeals to you. Whereas, love is more of like having a serious crush. You interact with them, you play with them long enough that you understand what their personality is, inside and out. 5936745264_cc61107849_o

When the right timing comes, you start to develop feelings and you think about a long-term relationship that you could have with them. So yes, affection and attachment do contribute a part to bordering the line between the two. Crushes aren’t necessarily have to be deep feelings, majority is “like” crushes and they’re simply composed of a passing infatuation for someone. We find ourselves very passionate in the burning desires to be with someone.              Photo mulan 2011 © (CC BY-SA 2.0)

I asked other people what they think about it, and they said that like can eventually lead to what we all know, love. Without the basic background of all your interests for that person, you definitely cannot build up love. It’s like playing with Lego, pretend you’re assembling a car but rather than starting at step one, you skip straight ahead to step 4, then you’ll be missing a permanent part of your final product unless you undo it and build it all over again. Just like love, you can’t fully have their heart unless you build a strong foundation.

Usually, it’s the distance, similarities, and attractiveness that bring people together and enclose their feelings. Living nearby, having similar tastes, preferences, interests, and fashion styles, those are necessities for a much stronger and deeper attachment to be built but not yet to enter the phase of being in a relationship. However, in rare cases do the abnormal, odd, extraordinary yet unique traits and differences charm the other person. Traditionally, people tend to stick with the common ones, but some find those weird personalities very interesting.

So we put our thoughts together and we believe that most of the times, you can construct a strong standing ground of love based off of your basics but it also depends on the interactions. In other words, endearment can occur at anytime as long as you have a strong supporter and background to back you up. For example, a friend likes another friend in school. You go to school and meet that person everyday, you interact with them in person even if no words are spoken. The more time you see that friend, the more emotions that will be intrigued. On the opposite hand, let’s say fans and celebrities, fans don’t get to see their idols every time they go out. Some possible ways to see them are to attend their events or just happen to see them on the streets.

Comparing the interaction you have with the first example, it’s much lesser so therefore less endearment is kept and held. However, there are certain fans that exceed the limits and overdo their actions that can be very creepy and annoying. Those think their idols are the sources of life for them, without the presences of the celebrities, death is very likely to be faced or it might be external conflict with the world. Another key factor that matters as well is the gap between, awkwardness. Even if hobbies, interests, and personalities match, the conversations determine whether the two are compatible or not. Too much silence and awkwardness can’t conclude anything no matter how much you claim the love for that person.

After all the analysis and discussions, we came up with a final decision. There are likes that can only go up to a certain level and stop progressing before love. There are also likes that’ll grow to extend beyond infinity. Recap, love for a pop star can be passionate, aggressive, sometimes crazy but that burning desire is not as long and deep for our friend. A great demonstration is this, no fans have ever ended up being in a relationship because the affection a celebrity has for their friends is just the casual and friendly but there are some exceptions, however that is very rarely to happen. Despite that fan – idol’s love, there’s a higher chance that you’ll experience the real highness of love. Fans and celebrities are like partners in business, while friends with friends are more of like a family displaying one as a mother and another as the father.

Nevertheless, there’s an ugly truth regarding high school relationships. I know we’re not talking about relationship today but since it’s relating to the topics, I might as well share this with you guys. This is what I’ve read in articles and saw other people’s affair: depends on each individual’s destiny, there is a rather high possibility that your high school sweetheart might not follow you through the rest of your life. And I think it’s very true, here’s why. At a certain point of your life, you’ll be opened to new exposures, like meet more people, make new friends in new environments. Your capability of meeting new people and making new friends is not limited as soon as you step out of your comfort zone that you have been stuck in for quite a while. Just like when you move from middle school to high school, the perspectives will change, the girl that you promise to love forever is now a girlfriend of another guy. Childhood love is very innocent and delicate, only those that choose to cherish the happy moments forever can get through life’s obstacles and scandalous meetups.

NEW CHANGES!!! [#8 Part 2]

Alright guys, welcome back! I’m back as well, so Lunar New Year just passed by. I hoped you guys did enjoy your holiday, or some of you might not, but I did, definitely. I went to Vegas for the last couple days of January. Pretty fun there I would say, it’s been quite a long time since I’ve last visited as well.

So I’m very happy to make this announcement that I just finished my finals last week before my vacation and basically I have more time to write daily blog posts, making up those that I never did. If you didn’t notice yet but I kinda updated the website a bit, I’m still in the progress of updating a few more things, like my logo and the domain. Those take quite a long time to change it but I hope I’ll have it done by next week or the following.

Over the weekend, I decided to change it up a little bit. New semester, new updates, new topics, a lot of new stuffs for this page generally. So starting next week or the following, we’ll be getting into some more interesting stuffs including reading love articles and analyzing them, I’ll be telling you guys my own personal experiences and hopefully at the end of each post, you can learn something new. Keep in mind that I’m still a beginner so these are just some tests that I’m trying, like the fonts or the new ideas. If it goes well, I’ll keep it, however if it doesn’t, I’ll have to change it according to its structure.

Concluding, you’ll see new updates with the following posts and hope it’s worth my efforts. If you’re reading this and you made it to the end, thank you so much, I really appreciate your time. Honestly, I know I have written couple of posts now but I’m still trying to make my writing looks natural and professional. If you have any tips you want to share with me, you’re always welcome to comment down below.

Once again, thank you, I hope you enjoy the recent posts and if you did, share with others whom you think might need some advises or just some talks. If you want to ask me any question regarding your issues, always feel free to contact me or comment. Typically, my responses for the comments are within a week but I’ll try my best to check it more regularly. But if you really need my voice, the contact forms are available 24/7. Wrapping up, thank you for stopping by, and I’ll see you in the next post.

NEW CHANGES!!!! [#8 Part 1]

Um…. I don’t know how to start off today’s blog post but definitely we are not gonna talk about love nor continue with the series. I have two things that I want to inform and discuss with you all, my audience. It has been on my chest for like months now and I feel bad for you guys, but I think some of you guys kinda figure out what I’m about to say right?

So first, let’s start with the negative. I know I’ve been telling you guys how I’m unable to catch up with the weeks that I’m busy, I started my WordPress since the beginning of the year, many months passed and I have only seven blog posts up so far. I’m not sure how many weeks I’ve missed but definitely more than three. I said I would definitely catch up with all of them during my winter break but apparently, I was loaded with homework and I was sick as well. I did make a statement in the very first post that I’ll write a blog every single week and that was my goal. However, half of the school year have already went by and I’m still very surprised by the unexpected amount of homework my teachers give out each week. Certainly, I’m not trying to exaggerate, it’s just that I’ll try to get all of them in by the end of this school year. Anyway, from now on, there won’t be a schedule of uploading blog posts. It can be random, you might see one a week, two to three, or even none, but I’ll make sure that the time limit is within two weeks.

Forget about that, now let’s move on to the good news. Just kidding, keep that in mind, everyone. I’ve been thinking about this lately. As I said before, I want to continue doing this, writing blog posts, even when I’m out of English Honors 1. I have always dreamed to be a Youtuber, however, acknowledging the limited time a day gives and the little free time I have. Rather than spend hours and hours editing a video, I choose to do this way, communicate with my readers through here.

Love is not something easy to analyze and elaborate, it requires experiences, critical thinking, and maybe some statistics. Every time I write a blog like that, it takes me a couple hours thinking deeply and break down into pieces then put it into an words. It’s kinda hard to keep up at the same time and spend hours thinking and writing a proper one. So let’s leave that aside for now, beside being an online love adviser, I also want to do something beyond the aspects of love and infinity. Thus, I decided to write more topics to involve my readers to a variety of perspectives of aspects in life such as fashion, cook, my personal life, traveling, mortal lessons, life in general. Eventually, there will be more and more fun and interesting talks on here that we can all share throughout this community.

Well, first, I need to finish my series in order to move on to the other discussions. But you can expect new change around next Saturday and I’ll explain more about that in the next post. Thank you so much and I’m so sorry as well.