Mass Amount of Loves in High School???

I’ve just thought about this a few days ago and it seems pretty true so I want to share with you guys to see if you have the same view with high school kids nowadays as. The relationship theory that I just came up with is that majority of the kids over the course of 12 years of school, love and infatuate on an average amount of 3-12 people. While the rest either goes single all the way or have lesser rate of loves.

The point I’m trying to make here is that not because some kids aren’t attractive enough that they are unable to have crushes as much as the others, but this how puberty grows hormone and it usually clusters around middle school to high school. Boys and girls, when they hit puberty at a certain age, they all want to be loved and this is the start of their affection desires built by the hormones inside. Some can be either really good at suppressing their feelings or they have no interests at all, but like I mentioned before, majority of the students like to go for short-terms and pass it up real quick.

From those days in junior high to the 4 years of high school, teens tend to be repetitive in finding loves and infatuations out of boredom and loneliness. Because of the total 6 years of school, they meet lots of new people and changes of mind regarding their choice can change from time to time. But the thing ironic about this is, kids are supposed to have real fun when they’re still young. Supposedly during their teenage and early twenties, these kids should be exploring the world and learn who they really are first before rushing themselves into relationships and crushes.

So to conclude today’s post, I want to know how you feel about this so please comment down below and let me know your thoughts. I know today’s blog is kinda short but thank you so much and I’ll see you next week!

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Silence….

Silence.

It kills relationships.

It is also the most powerful weapon.

For those who treasure and value their significant others than anything else, nothing is more painful than a silence act given by them. Words hurt feelings, but the deafening quiet breaks the heart.

Sometimes, it is rightful to be silent in the downhills. Say all your wills, confirm your feelings, your thoughts. What you want, tell them, what you need, tell them, everything you feel about the relationship, tell them. If you don’t, nobody gonna knows what you want. And after all, silence can do nothing, it doesn’t solve the problems nor does it fix the shattered souls.

Love is not all about the expensive dates and luxurious gifts. True love doesn’t ask for much but the attention and care given at the appropriate times. Nothing too pricey nor dreamy, ordinary like any others. Lovers put efforts into their relationship, do everything they possibly can to maintain a healthy love yet some people are ungrateful about it and choose not to do the same thing back.

You try to play it cool, but you don’t know how catching feelings of another person can be like until you’re in their shoes. Having no idea what is up with you. Worried, concerned, having no idea what is up with you. No matter how much they try to fix it, all you can do is stay quiet and leave them hanging. They wander in thoughts of you.

The unavoidable blankless. Silence is sound, but it lacks an element of life, the loudest sound you’ll ever hear in your life. Moving on, but dying out of oxygen. Night comes but only them survive in the coldness of the world. Holds it in, the agony of having to suppress your sadness is indescribable. You don’t know and you’ll never understand, the broken heart of a human who got left out.

You think it’s alright to leave the love in silence for a while. They struggle to understand your perspective, until one day, they finally accept the fate. But not being an idiot, staying back beside someone who doesn’t appreciate their existence.

They leave your life.

And then you start realizing how important they are. All the mixed feelings rush by, you are like a wild animal breaking out the cage, doing everything you can just to ask for forgiveness. Nonetheless, it’s too late to say sorry.

 

Treasure your loved ones before karma comes and leaves you with regrets.

 

Forever is a Distance [#11]

She was a teen, he was a young adult. There were times when she really missed him and just wanted to express her feelings, but looking back at the relationship with him, it was nothing. They were no longer together, she had no right to be jealous with whoever he hung out with, she had no right to say “I love you” nor “I miss you” anymore. Although they didn’t break up for the old, same reason but it was that they couldn’t be together. They were perfect for each other, their love was dreamy, they ended up parting ways for their age gap, however.

 17453740_623846054481204_330451042_oHe loved her and she loved him, but they remained as friends because they both had a fear of losing each other. Accidentally, they built up this wall of fears and insecurities. She knew for the best they wouldn’t last yet they both tried to tie it down any way possible. On those last days of their love, he took her to the beach, the worries, the dark thoughts, all got washed up by the shores.

Ever since that day, they were fond of each other, not a couple, but as brother and sister. His life, her life, no one knew much about it. They laid under the same stars but their heart ached for the cold, bitterness of the universe. She chose to pursue him in her dreams, it was a tough decision, for it to let him be her 3AM thoughts. She blindly devoted to her long-term, one-sided love despite how dreadful that was. She cried herself to sleep every night, she was pathetic, living her life as a chaotic, apologetic mess. 

She couldn’t rebound to another love, her heart ached inside of her and she was sitting there cluelessly, didn’t know what to do with her life. She told him she didn’t want to be a sister anymore but truly a friend. Her words cut her heart, the wounds, dripping blood endlessly. Her own writing locked her up. She was ruining both hearts. She was afraid to face the destruction of reality.

She missed all the convos that she had, all the kisses, the hugs, the cuddles, the locks, every single thing. She missed both the memories and the person. For her, he wasn’t an ex, he was more than the universe, a person who she truly deeply loved and cared for. Sometimes it hit her out of nowhere. All of a sudden, this overwhelming sadness rushed it over her and she got discouraged, upset and hopeless, sad and hurt. Once again, she became numb to the world. She just wanted to go somewhere where nobody knew who she was and she wished he was there with her. But little did she know, he chased her through heaven and hell since the first day. They didn’t regret meeting one another, but for the time period that split the souls.

Credits: Anonymous Writer

NEW CHANGES!!! [#8 Part 2]

Alright guys, welcome back! I’m back as well, so Lunar New Year just passed by. I hoped you guys did enjoy your holiday, or some of you might not, but I did, definitely. I went to Vegas for the last couple days of January. Pretty fun there I would say, it’s been quite a long time since I’ve last visited as well.

So I’m very happy to make this announcement that I just finished my finals last week before my vacation and basically I have more time to write daily blog posts, making up those that I never did. If you didn’t notice yet but I kinda updated the website a bit, I’m still in the progress of updating a few more things, like my logo and the domain. Those take quite a long time to change it but I hope I’ll have it done by next week or the following.

Over the weekend, I decided to change it up a little bit. New semester, new updates, new topics, a lot of new stuffs for this page generally. So starting next week or the following, we’ll be getting into some more interesting stuffs including reading love articles and analyzing them, I’ll be telling you guys my own personal experiences and hopefully at the end of each post, you can learn something new. Keep in mind that I’m still a beginner so these are just some tests that I’m trying, like the fonts or the new ideas. If it goes well, I’ll keep it, however if it doesn’t, I’ll have to change it according to its structure.

Concluding, you’ll see new updates with the following posts and hope it’s worth my efforts. If you’re reading this and you made it to the end, thank you so much, I really appreciate your time. Honestly, I know I have written couple of posts now but I’m still trying to make my writing looks natural and professional. If you have any tips you want to share with me, you’re always welcome to comment down below.

Once again, thank you, I hope you enjoy the recent posts and if you did, share with others whom you think might need some advises or just some talks. If you want to ask me any question regarding your issues, always feel free to contact me or comment. Typically, my responses for the comments are within a week but I’ll try my best to check it more regularly. But if you really need my voice, the contact forms are available 24/7. Wrapping up, thank you for stopping by, and I’ll see you in the next post.

NEW CHANGES!!!! [#8 Part 1]

Um…. I don’t know how to start off today’s blog post but definitely we are not gonna talk about love nor continue with the series. I have two things that I want to inform and discuss with you all, my audience. It has been on my chest for like months now and I feel bad for you guys, but I think some of you guys kinda figure out what I’m about to say right?

So first, let’s start with the negative. I know I’ve been telling you guys how I’m unable to catch up with the weeks that I’m busy, I started my WordPress since the beginning of the year, many months passed and I have only seven blog posts up so far. I’m not sure how many weeks I’ve missed but definitely more than three. I said I would definitely catch up with all of them during my winter break but apparently, I was loaded with homework and I was sick as well. I did make a statement in the very first post that I’ll write a blog every single week and that was my goal. However, half of the school year have already went by and I’m still very surprised by the unexpected amount of homework my teachers give out each week. Certainly, I’m not trying to exaggerate, it’s just that I’ll try to get all of them in by the end of this school year. Anyway, from now on, there won’t be a schedule of uploading blog posts. It can be random, you might see one a week, two to three, or even none, but I’ll make sure that the time limit is within two weeks.

Forget about that, now let’s move on to the good news. Just kidding, keep that in mind, everyone. I’ve been thinking about this lately. As I said before, I want to continue doing this, writing blog posts, even when I’m out of English Honors 1. I have always dreamed to be a Youtuber, however, acknowledging the limited time a day gives and the little free time I have. Rather than spend hours and hours editing a video, I choose to do this way, communicate with my readers through here.

Love is not something easy to analyze and elaborate, it requires experiences, critical thinking, and maybe some statistics. Every time I write a blog like that, it takes me a couple hours thinking deeply and break down into pieces then put it into an words. It’s kinda hard to keep up at the same time and spend hours thinking and writing a proper one. So let’s leave that aside for now, beside being an online love adviser, I also want to do something beyond the aspects of love and infinity. Thus, I decided to write more topics to involve my readers to a variety of perspectives of aspects in life such as fashion, cook, my personal life, traveling, mortal lessons, life in general. Eventually, there will be more and more fun and interesting talks on here that we can all share throughout this community.

Well, first, I need to finish my series in order to move on to the other discussions. But you can expect new change around next Saturday and I’ll explain more about that in the next post. Thank you so much and I’m so sorry as well.

What is the difference between lust and friends with benefits? [#7]

What is lust? What is a friend with benefits? So last week, I talked about what’s the difference between like and love. If you didn’t notice, the last post was the beginning of this whole series that I am currently working on. After several blog posts of kinda like random and like an introduction to this whole concept of love, I decided to start a series but because this is the first one so I’d like to explain and analyze the definition of relationships in general.

So what are the exact meanings of lust and friends with benefits? Well, according to Urban Dictionary, lush is “The purely physical attraction and has no lasting effect.” Whereas, friends with benefits include “Two friends have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment.” In other words, lust is the sexual attraction between strangers (not close) and friends with benefits are two good friends willing to exchange that strong sexual desire without a commitment.

So just like last week’s post, here are the differences between lust and friends with benefits:

  1. Lust starts off with the good physical appearance and intimacy, while FWB is based on the good friendship you two have but doesn’t really care much about their outer looks nor their affection.
  2. Lust is more of like a short term relationship, if a certain person doesn’t pass your expectations, you pass them on. FWB, after all is based on friendship, under whatever circumstances, the 2 people will still remain as friends, in most of the cases.
  3. Lust plans to meet frequently, FWB meets up only when they have needs.
  4. Partners in lust support each other both financially and emotionally, friends support each other only emotionally.
  5. Friend with friend, there is no romantic commitment nor expectation. A person with a person keeps the company going strong and healthy.

So basically, to sum up everything, no matter what the circumstances are, friends don’t change their friendship status unless something serious happens. 2 people in a temporary period expects one another to be good at a certain part of the relationship or the whole play.

What’s the difference between like and love? [#6]

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Hey there, I am back again. I am so tired right now and can’t stop complaining how busy my weeks are *chuckled*. I thought I had a real break but actually it was just the “schedule” was more flexible. Most of the time I spent during my Thanksgiving break was on my homework. But anyway, how were your Thanksgiving and Black Friday? Probably some got the whole break off or just a day off on last Thursday or even no day off. So on the last Thursday of the , me and my family didn’t do anything special beside going out to eat, and spent some time together reflecting upon our gratefulness. So today, we’re gonna discuss about the difference between like and love which is the most controversial topic and the fundamental of all relationship.

Hey there, I am back again. I am so tired right now and can’t stop complaining how busy my weeks are *chuckled*. I thought I had a real break but actually it was just the “schedule” was more flexible. Most of the time I spent during my Thanksgiving break was on my homework. But anyway, how were your Thanksgiving and Black Friday? Probably some got the whole break off or just a day off on last Thursday or even no day off. So last week, me and my family didn’t do anything special beside going out to eat, and spent some time together reflecting upon our gratefulness.

First, let’s define what do those terms mean. Like is a temporary feeling that you can have for any person in life and especially at first sight. Most of the times, you like someone for their outer appearance and their positive traits. Love, on the other hand, is a strong feeling of affection that is built overtime. They tend to have an everlasting bond between two persons. Now that we know the definitions, let’s move on to the main thing. Here are the differences:

  1. Like is very pleasant, but love has stronger and much deeper affection and attachment.
  2. Like is mostly seen through the physical appearance and good traits of an individual while love is unconditional.
  3. Like only wants to share the happy moments in life, love wants to share the hardships together.
  4. A great example is that if you like a bug, you would keep it, but if you love the animal, you would return it to the wilderness and its natural habitat.
  5. When you like someone, you only want them to know about your strengths, when you love someone though, you want them to know both your strengths and weaknesses.
  6. Like is only for positive and sweet sayings, whereas in love, you can say anything you want, both bad and good stuffs.
  7. You can never liked their weaknesses and get along with it unless you understand it or even love it.
  8. Love produces more tears than like.
  9. A person who likes you only want to take advantage of you, but a person who loves is willing to make sacrifices.
  10. Like is here and there, love is here and here.

These are just the most common differences, of course there are more to prove how one term is different from another. But basically, the main difference here is that like is short term and love is long term. It is often mistaken between the two in which I’ll explain more in the next series.

Anyways, thank you so much for stopping by my website and actually take some time to read this. If you made it to the end, you are awesome. If you have any comments, always feel free to do so, either directly on the page or direct message me through Instagram. I’ll try my best to respond within the day. Like, comment, and share this to anybody that you feel like they should read my posts. Haha, thank you once again.

 

 

My 25 Random Facts Part 2 [#5]

As I mentioned last blog that due to my limited time of doing homework, chores, and going to school, I had little time to do my blog posts as well as keep them up to date. I am so sorry for that but it will be improved in the future. So here are the remaining 25 random facts about me.

  1. My favorite holiday of the year is Christmas because that’s near my birthday and also it’s the best time to spend with family and friends, to open presents like I’m still a young kid.
  2. My dream college is either UCI or UCLA because it’s nearby here, I can visit my family in the weekends or whenever I have days off.
  3. In my fourth grade. I started to learn how to play the violin and the learning lasted until freshman year which I had to give up as I got busier.
  4. I am already bilingual with Vietnamese and English, but now I’m learning a new language, Spanish.
  5. My goals for the four years of high school are to lose 30lbs and get straight A’s every year.
  6. In Vietnam, I used to wear uniforms to my elementary school.
  7. When I go to sleep, I turn off all of my lights except for those times I fall asleep leaving my table lamp on.
  8. I have a fear of ghosts but whenever I watch scary movies, I would be shocked at first then laugh hysterically for about 15 minutes.
  9. In my group of friends, I’m the tallest among all boys and girls.
  10. People usually mistake me as the older sister because of my height.
  11. One thing that I hate about myself is that I still have that procrastination in my mind.
  12. One thing that I love about myself is I know how to take care of other people.
  13. The biggest insecurity of mine is to lose my loved ones.
  14. When I grow up, I want to be a doctor and a designer.
  15. To me, haters are a part of me, it’s something that pushes me to move forward and strike for the better.
  16. My best childhood memory was that I got to spend time at a zoo with my old friends in Vietnam.
  17. I never had a sleepover with my friends, only with my relatives.
  18. In my playlists, I have more sad and low beat songs than upbeats.
  19. This summer, I finally got to visit the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco.
  20. When I have free time, I would go hang out with my family and friends, play sports, watch Youtube, listen to music, and read books.
  21. I scream and yell when there’s an interruption in the silence.
  22. My Zodiac sign is Capricorn.
  23. I started a Youtube channel when I was about 11, but I gave up pretty soon after that.
  24. I’m only good at analyze and give advices about love not matchmaking.
  25. I’ve harmed myself unsuccessfully, but luckily got over the idea of suicide by my own motivations.

And so this is the end of today’s blog post. I hope this relaxes your mind a bit, reduces the tensions if you do have. There’ll be one more blog post coming up this week for the one that I missed. Thank you all! duong-nguyen-facebook-profile

My 25 Random Facts Part 1 [#4]

This Tuesday was the 2016 presidential election, the most historical event of America. People are cheering, crying, sorrowing for that. All mixed feelings of both Democratic and Republican supporters. I don’t want to get everyone stuck up with their emotions and not having a good feeling while reading my blogs so I’m gonna do something relaxed, chilled, and maybe help brace yourself. Remember the welcome blog that I first posted for like couple weeks ago? I just briefly went through the policies, what’s this about, and a little bit of introduction about me. Honestly I don’t exactly know where to start so here are the first 25 random facts about me.

  1. My male celebrity crush is Theo James from the series of Divergent.
  2. My female celebrity crush is Adele from the song “Hello”.
  3. My favorite TV show is a Korean reality show, Running Man.
  4. The last movie that I just watched yesterday was Masterminds.
  5. The last country that I visited was Vietnam about 2-3 years ago.
  6. The place I’d probably want to live is either Los Angeles or Irvine.
  7. My favorite color is yellow for it represents warmth, happiness, royalty, and prosperity.
  8. The quote that I always keep reminding myself is, “Don’t go broke while trying to look rich.”
  9. My favorite movie is The Independence Day.
  10. My favorite song is “Scars To Your Beautiful” by Alessia Cara.
  11. The movie that always make me laugh is The Conjuring 2,
  12. The movie that always make me cry is Hachiko: A Dog’s Story.
  13. I’m more of like a night owl because I tend to stay up late ‘til 2 or 3 in the morning.
  14. If I ever won the lottery, the first thing I’d do is pay all of my family’s debts and whatever remains will go into our saving accounts.
  15. I have dyed-brown straight hair.
  16. My addiction is probably checking my phone in the morning when I wake and at night before I go to bed.
  17. I don’t drink sodas except for special occasions, mostly I drink water, but if someday I can’t stay awake, I’d drink zero calorie energy drinks or hot chocolate.
  18. Every time I go to Starbucks, I order double chocolate chips frappuccino.
  19. My two favorite cartoons of all time are Tom and Jerry and Mr. Bean.
  20. Although yellow is my favorite color, when talking about fashion, I like to wear black and white clothes.
  21. I am a very sporty girl, I rarely dress up girly or sometimes I combine both styles.
  22. My favorite sport is volleyball.
  23. Because I’m so sporty, every quarter, I would get an A+ in PE.
  24. Secret Fact: I like to bite my nails and let the blood drips off my fingers.
  25. When I customize my pizza, I choose more veggies than meats.

For the sake of my limited time, I deeply apologize for having to break this down into two parts but I promise in the future, it’ll be one piece. Thank you and see you guys next week! skyler-nguyen-san-francisco-mask-pic

 

LGBT Relationships: Pros & Cons [#3]

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Last week, I briefly talked about the LGBT and how it is an important matter in our society. Today I’ll break it down deeper, the advantages and disadvantages. So these positive and negative things are what I’ve learned, read, and experienced as I go along with my life. We’ll talk about the pros first and to the cons.

Pros:

~The Accepting Generation~

Nowadays, more and more people are accepting homosexual people, especially the young adults. Meaning that the LGBT community is slowly getting accepted into the society, it might take a long time, might be quick within a few years. But definitely, there are more supporters than back then. Most of the older generations often have that attitudes of the old-fashioned ignorance, they never changed for the reason that they believe it’s rightful. Nonetheless, the more you support it, the more confident they are and they’ll carry less of a burden.

~Gender Role~

Straight couples always have to deal with gender role issues. There are certain expected responsibilities for a guy and a girl to do. The idea is ingrained from one’s culture, beliefs, customs or the influence from movies, TV shows, role models, etc. For example, when both parties know that they’re ready for marriage, the expected one to propose to another is always the masculine side. Society has overlooked the inside of a relationship knowing that all humans are equal but it’s always the men that have to initiate the confessions because they’re strong, powerful, and the bigger side to “gasp the women in their palms.”

However, that is never a problem for the homosexual couples. Whether you’re in a gay or a lesbian relationship, the genders are the same. Both of you have the same amount of duties and no “man” or “woman” is determined by the traditional relationship roles.

Cons:

~Family Attack~

Your own family could attack you for the same reason just like Tom’s parents. Religious beliefs can highly influence your love life, even if it doesn’t come from you. Many helicopter parents would work their way to get rid of your partner, even if it means murder and crime. To them, it is a sin. To you, it’s a delightful thing. Yet as a child, there’s no right for you to talk back and that is where the sadness comes once you start listening to your parents. So if you truly deeply love your partner, fight for it and don’t let the third-party to impact your relationship.

~Unnecessary Attention and Judgement in Public~

The approval of America’s same-sex love doesn’t mean that it applies for this whole planet. There are still many discrimination going on worldwide regarding the topic of LGBT love. Despite the love and support from friends and family, when you walk out of that comfort zone, everything ends. The real world is very brutal and harsh. People do stare and be curious, it is definitely hard not to do so at an unusual thing especially a gay or les couple showing affections in the public. Most will judge upon their observation whether behind their back or in person, at worst, verbally abuse. Although your strong souls claim you will be okay, the harassment will somehow get to your heart and release its “venom” slowly.

I don’t think I’ve covered all pros and cons but these are the main ones…according to my words *haha*. I do admit I sometimes stare at gays and les and question myself, but I never insulted them nor do I judge. I always remain confused for a moment and forget the next day. It’s just the natural inquisitive that makes me behave that way. This is quite a long post but I hope you guys enjoy it. Give a thumb up if you enjoy it. Bye for now!